Deeper Self-Questions
Guided self-inquiry to break through somed induced intention displacement.
- Use when your "What is my intention?" question in the self-questioning method is unclear (or returns "I want to forget").
- Identify hidden motives like validation seeking or reaction formation.
- Regain agency by naming your exact need leading to the Redzone.
These questions are intended as extensions from “Question #2: What is my intention?” method in the book. They lead from a place where you have already done the work but your intention remains a mystery. First ask yourself the question and then click on it for follow-up questions once you answer.
Follow-Up: What is my desired outcome from scrolling right now?
Follow-Up: Am I searching for something specific?
Follow-Up: Have I set and memorized a strong DOC?
Follow-Up: What am I losing?
Follow-Up: Am I “giving away” my attention because I’m not receiving attention to fill a specific need?
- Intellectually (need for competence)
- Obsessed with comments (need for relatedness)
- Doomscrolling (need for autonomy)
Follow-Up: How can I pull away? What method from the book can I use here?
Follow-Ups: Is this constant judgment making me feel bad? Am I projecting a fault of my own?
Follow-Up: Is my feed or influencers enhancing my shame or grief?
Are we in a shared emotional state or contagion?
Follow-Up: What needs to get done?
Follow-Up: Am I “giving away” my attention (mindless surfing, doomscrolling)?
Intellectually? Self-esteem? Porn?
Follow-Ups: Am I suffering from some heartbreak? Am I caught up in events outside of me? Am I thinking thoughts supporting or enhancing my life despite the events outside of me?
Follow-Up: What can I add to my life that helps me meet this unmet need?
Follow-Up: Is this feeling the best for my DOC and future self?
Follow-Up: Can the answers to this be set into my DOC moving forward?